Monday, March 16, 2009

dz annual dinner 2009

Just want to share a few pictures of mine during my company's annual dinner last Friday..
I can say that we had a lot of fun during the dinner but am a bit busy and not much time to enjoy myself as I was one of the committee members:)
























Wednesday, March 4, 2009

Ralph reply - Suicide Help 44

I wrote a mail to Ralph yesterday and i got this reply...
Thanks a lot Ralph..


I can tell you what I tell people who tell me they are thinking of committing suicide and you can share that with her.

I have never seen a suicide that was worthwhile. Never have I seen someone who was better off dead. I have been in that situation so I understand a lot of what goes through people's minds. They want rest and peace, they want the pain and suffering to stop. They don't feel that life has anything to offer and death seems to be peaceful and at the very least painless after the initial dying.

The problem is those are lies. What happens after a person dies? Very simple, they wake up and are the very same person they were while they were alive. They have the same personality, the same likes and the same dislikes. They have the same memories and the same cares. If the pain they were trying to escape from was emotional, then they will still have it.

On top of that are the things that death itself brings. For example; they would wonder who found their body, what did the person think about it? What did their family and friends think? Did anyone feel guilty because they killed themselves, did anyone get mad at them for acting selfishly? Is that what people thought, that they were selfish? What if they had not killed them self, would their life have changed in the future? Would they have found someone to love them just the way they were? Thousands of questions and not one answer.

This begs the question what is life all about? Is life about living a happy existence for 70 or 80 years and then just ceasing to exist? No. Life is about one thing and one thing only. That is having a relationship with our Creator. He created us for His pleasure and for ours. He wants to show us love and compassion, but He did and does not want robots or slaves. He wants us to love Him for who He is not because we have to. We don't have to, we have the choice to reject Him and even to take our own lives. People will say that He does not really give us a choice because if we choose not to follow Him we will end up in hell, but they are only half right. It is a true choice. Hell is being totally separated from God's love, which is what the person who rejects God is doing. It is still being the same person but without the hope of anything better.

Many people question how a loving God could allow people to choose to reject Him and then spend eternity in hell. What is the option? Make us slaves? The human spirit does not take being a slave well. People would rather die than be a slave, so why would God force us all to be slaves? That is not what people really want. What they want is to not have to answer to anyone for anything, or in other words have no consequences for their actions. That brings us back to why God allows evil to continue. He hates it. So why does He allow evil things to happen?

The answer to that is the answer to life. See God loves us, but He is holy and can't stand sin. His holy and just nature demands punishment for all sin. Murder, rape, abuse, but not just them, also for lying, cheating, hatred, etc... The only punishment for those sins is to be separated from God, or in other words spiritual death, which is what being separated from Him is. We have all sinned and we all deserve to die spiritually. (Ezekiel 18:4 NIV) For every living soul belongs to me, the father as well as the son--both alike belong to me. The soul who sins is the one who will die.

We are not born pure and clean and then are ruined by our environment, we are all born with the tendency to do evil. It is in our hearts, passed down by our parents and their parents. You don't have to teach a child to be selfish, or to lie, or to cheat, it comes natural, what you have to teach them is not to do those things.

So that bring us to the point where we all deserve death (separation from God). He loves us but His holy and just nature can't over look our sins, payment has to be made for our sins. This again is why He allows evil to continue in this world, because if He were to stop it totally today, that means He would have to punish all those who have done evil and that includes all of us.

God can't just forgive and forget our sins, they must be paid for, but yet He loves us. That is the reason that Jesus Christ came to this earth as a human being. You might not understand the Trinity, but what it is will explain a lot. God is one being but has three persons, the Father, the Son (Jesus Christ) and the Holy Spirit. When the Bible says we are made in the image of God, that is what it means. We are triune beings too. Take yourself for example. There is you, the physical body, there is you, the mind or personality and there is you the spirit or soul. You are one person but yet you are still three. The body is not all of you. People might think they know you because they know what you look like, but until they get to know your personality they don't really know you. I hope you see my point.

Anyway, so God is a triune being. One of those persons (Jesus Christ) came to earth and was born as a human being. He took on human status, so that He could pay for our sins. See I can't pay for your sins and you can't pay for mine, because we both have our own to worry about. It took someone who was sinless to pay for our sins. There was no one sinless so God came to earth as a human, living a sinless life so that He could pay for our sins.

(Romans 5:8 NIV) But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

He died for us and He rose for us. See we were created as physical being. It is part of our triune nature. We will spend eternity in a physical body, which we will get after the resurrection on judgment day. Now if Jesus had just died and then gone to heaven as a spirit what would that mean to us? Northing, but since He was raised in a physical body it shows that God will also give us physical bodies. Then we will be able to spend eternity with Him enjoying all of creation the way it was suppose to be.

Jesus died for the sins you have committed. He also died for the sins all of us have committed. But those sins are only forgiven if we repent (admit we have sinned) and believe that Jesus did really die for us and then ask Him to forgive us.

Then life will be what it should be. No all the problems won't completely go away instantly. There is still evil in this world, but we will know that this life even if it last 80 or 90 years is nothing compared to what pleasure we will have for eternity. This changes a person's perspective on life. It changed my life. I never want to go back to the way things were.

I hope you will think about this and talk to God about it. Just talk to Him, He will hear you and He will help you if you want help. He loves you.

Ralph

Tuesday, March 3, 2009

My sister

My sister have been really depressed over the past couple years. Her husband has another woman and lives together with that woman until now. He is working in Tawau and will only return home once a while. My sister knew what the problem was but she doesn’t want anybody from my family members to involve. She refuse to talk about her problem to anyone of us. Last year, she started to change and turn into alcoholism and smoking... I tried to talk and advice her yesterday but she cried and asks me to take care of her children if anything happened to her. She said no one seems to listen or understand or care of her..
She used to tell my mum that she is not afraid to commit suicide. She tells my mum that she would kill her three children first and she will be the last one to die. This is the greatest fear in my family.


I tried to talked and advice her again last night and tell her that she would be condemned to eternity in hell and will be punished for her sins..

Thanks Pst. Joe and cip for your support and prayer.
Thank God for saving her life.

Thursday, February 26, 2009

A handbook for each and every year indeed !

Health:

1. Drink plenty of water.
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.
5. Make time to pray...
6. Play more games.
7. Read more books than you did in 2008.
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
9. Sleep for 7 hours.
10. Take a 10-30 minutes walk every day. And while you walk, smile.

Personality:

11. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
13. Don't over do. Keep your limits.
14. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
15. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
16. Dream more while you are awake.
17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
18. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
20. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
23. Smile and laugh more.
24. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

Society:

25. Call your family often.
26. Each day give something good to others.
27. Forgive everyone for everything.
28. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
29. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
30. What other people think of you is none of your business.
31. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

Life:

32. Do the right thing!
33. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
34. GOD heals everything.
35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
36. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
37. The best is yet to come.
38. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.
39. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.

Tuesday, February 17, 2009

Tuesday, February 3, 2009

Good News Today :)

My bos just got back from vacation today. He asked me if everything is ok and i told him that everything is fine. Actually last few days i felt down as i think that i have so many things to do but Pastor reminds me about Moses and that God uses what we have. I was surprised this morning when my bos handed me an envelope amounting RM300.. What a big blessing from God:)

Thursday, January 29, 2009

Bad News Today

I got a bad news today... the new lady who supposed to help me has resigned today :(
I have to wait for my bos to come back from vacation so that he can find another person...
For the time being i need to do an extra work again.... :(

Please pray for me..